We have all been distracted to a point of breaking at times.  This word "broken" does not fit into what I think of as a functioning human being.  We all have lessons to learn and those lessons are important, even if they don't feel good.
 
Watching our judgements that we have of other people can give us a good deal of information about who we are in this life.  Does this way of thinking stem back to my culture that I was raised in?  Did I learn to accept this way of thinking from someone else?

So some ways of finding our way into how we are as people are:

Learn how to focus on your breath.  I know you have heard this before, but it works.  And find where that breath takes you.  I find that I am directed to my hands and feet many times. 

This can help with the restless nights.  Ahh, I can be calm and find my way through these emotions.

Don't try to stop the emotions as they come up.    If your mind or brain is "too Busy!!" (I am a master at this mind running around thing)  then slow down and find what you are trying to push that doesn't need to be pushed. 

We are looking to explore what all of these emotions and thoughts are all about, not trying to suppress or clear out anything.  Self awareness is all about just being aware of the negative and the positive states that we are in.

Give LENS a try.  It is calming and helps with stress.

I have been reading a book called, The Dark Nights of the Soul" by Thomas Moore.  He has had experience in the field of psychology that is related to Carl Jung.  Jung approached the way that people process their life in a different way then most of the more modern ways of thinking. 
We have all been involved in a big shake up of how our lives have been working.  I have found myself to be outraged, disbelieving, and a times really scared.
What happens in my life is that I want to always understand what I have going on with me.  I want to be in control of my emotional state.  I call this the dragon.
I am learning with Thomas Moore's help that I can learn to not resist this state that I am in.  I can learn to accept where my emotional state has taken me, many times down a negative path to acceptance. 
When I tune into these negative states of mind I can find a way to understand that this is a part of me that is really acceptable and viable, if I will let it.  It is really the compost for my growth.
Not that it is an easy place to be.  I have been taught since I was a child to not be angry, frustrated or....  But this is who I am.  All of the parts, they will fit together.

LENS helps my thoughts to calm down.