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There is a solution for loneliness. And one way of finding your way out of this place is to get out and volunteer. I know, the part of yourself that thinks that it will be too much trouble. Here is some of the facts that I found.
A big part of our culture, 1/4 to 1/2 find themselves in a very lonely place. This lonely place can create diseases. These diseases are some of the top problems in our society. They include: heart disease, cancer, diabetes and depression.
So what is the way out? Research has found that just 2 hours or more, of volunteering can create a higher level of health that married people find. We have a need for belonging. And we usually find a lack of meaning when we are lonely. So a good action to take is to get off the couch and screen and find a way to engage. Many of our family members are so busy, we need to find our own way out.
There is a way to support our communities with the different skills and gifts that we have.
LENS does not cure loneliness. But it can smooth out the brain waves so that we feel like getting engaged.
Theater of War......
I have been reading about the "Theater of War". It has been created by a man named Bryan Doerries. He is the translator of ancient Greek plays such as Ajax written by Sophocles. Sophocles was a general in the wars of Greece, 2500 years ago. It is believed that he wrote these plays to help the warriors to heal.
Doerries translates these plays in a sparse manner to help people to fill in the areas that need to be filled in. He presents these plays to veterans, their wives, and families. He helps to create a dialog, where there was none before. He also has presented these plays to a variety of other people that have seen the trauma of life. His plays are raw. They are put on by good actors with a limited budget. No costumes or frills are included in play. And yet these words have a very healing effect with the people that attend.
A quote from Doerries goes, "Make them wish that they'd never come". He puts such passion into the play that, "the intent of the evening is to afflict the comfortable and comfort the afflicted". People walk away feeling the truth of the suffering that they have seen.
I did not think that I could write about this man and his plays that he performs. This comes very close to home. I was raised in the slaughter house of the war. I have worked to understand this horror that we keep having on this planet. I still do not understand. But the dialog is happening, I have wanted to be part of the healing process. That is why I continue doing LENS neurofeedback to help to heal the wounds of so many.
The Anxiety Prone Brain....
When people have an anxiety prone brain, they tend to think in terms of, "what can go wrong" or "what is the worse case scenario". They or we, can jump to negative conclusions. A good aspect of this form of thinking is that there is a sensitivity to others. We need to understand that this sensitivity requires diligence to understand.
So, if and when, you have anxiety at work, you can misjudge how others view you. You can think that these other people dislike or think you have no talent. So to not put yourself in the seat of always being the victim, realize that not everyone is going to like you. But you can learn to work with them. The way to get around this is usually to check out the facts with the other person, learn to work with them.
So if your driven to succeed, you can feel defensive about feedback. Perhaps this needs to be digested slowly, through an email. Can you trust the other person to give you feedback in a manner that is acceptable? Can they cushion the feedback with positive things and then ways to improve in the middle? Can you step back and tell them that you will get back to them on that subject? This is learning to not react and be defensive.
Being honest about what is causing you to hesitate, can be taken in a positive or negative way. Hopefully, what your saying is taken as an indication of being brave and authentic. And if it is not, then perhaps this can be discussed at a later time.
So, if your concerned about how people are perceiving your feedback, then you could learn to also include what your wanting. You can cushion what your saying with positive feedback with the gooey stuff in the middle.
Anxiety can teach us about understanding. With the fear of rejection, you work harder. You can add caution to also enhance your work performance.
You can learn about your anxiety to help you understand how to maximize the positive aspects of your engagement with people. You can challenge and accept yourself.
LENS neurofeedback can help the level of anxiety to lessen. It smooths out the brain waves.
A women named Erica Chenoweth of Harvard has researched hundreds of campaigns over the last century and found that civil disobedience is not only a moral choice but the most powerful way of shaping politics. She started her research with the idea of trying to understand terrorism. She was resistant to the idea of civil disobedience. But because of her research, she has created a rule of 3.5%. This rule relates to the amount of the population that gets engaged in a non-violent resistance.
In 1986 millions of Filipinos (2 Million at the height of the campaign) in Manila lead a peaceful protest and prayer movement. After 4 days the Marcos regime folded.
In 2003 the people of Georgia lead the bloodless Rose revolution. They ousted Eduard Shevardnadze.
Earlier this year, the presidents of Sudan and Algeria stepped aside after decades, because of peaceful campaigns.
The other side of the coin shows that peaceful resistance failed 47% of the time because the protests only reached 2% of the population. Also the ability to keep the group cohesive is another factor.
So we have the 3.5% rule.
This information was taken from an article on the BBC website.
I believe that we can create our own integrated sense of self. This can only add on to the moral cohesiveness of our world, one person at a time.
LENS neurofeedback can create a more peaceful response to the world. It helps the brain to achieve a more balanced state.
Honesty and Research>>>>
Researchers have conducted experiments about honesty. Honesty can be hijacked when we repeat a dishonest act. The amygdala goes off line and shuts down. The part of our brain that is responsible for being fearful gets hijacked itself. This is a deep brain issue. So with repetition the dishonest deed does not feel so dishonest.
So how do we separate out the components of Dishonesty?
Research shows us that young children will go with what is of personal interest. Also they learn by modeling. If they see the adults hitting, then they will hit.
Older children and young adults will stick closer to what society considers the right thing to do. And of course, the higher standard is to do what is right for others or society in general.
There is an emotional component to Honesty. We do right because it feels like the right thing to do. If we can also tap in to how the other person is feeling then we are less likely to harm them.
Also there is a physiological response to telling the truth. If your heart is racing then things need to be looked into and observed. Is this the right thing for everyone that is involved?
So it all comes down to compassion. If you feel like a behavior is dishonest then consider the feelings of others and pay close attention to what your body is telling you.
LENS neurofeedback does not make you honest. It does create a more sensitive reaction to the environment and others. It opens up the brain areas to greater understanding.
A Little Physiology???
Have you ever heard of the fight, flight or freeze reaction in the body? It is driven by what we call the sympathetic nervous system. This system is part of the autonomic nervous system. This is the involuntary system that directs the heart rate, blood pressure, pupil dilation, body temperature, sweating, and digestion. There are neurons in the brain that direct and control the skeletal muscle, cardiac muscle and gland secretion. This part of our system helps us to react without thinking about it. This is in response to a dangerous or stressful situation. The hormones also boost the body's alertness and heart rate. They send extra blood to the muscles, boost breathing, and sends oxygen to the brain. In addition, the hormones also send glucose to the blood stream. When all of this activity is ready to settle down, then the parasympathetic system kicks in. This system then calms things down and creates the rest and digest phase. This helps to create equilibrium in the system. Mental health conditions such as depression and anxiety can keep the sympathetic nervous system wide open. When too many stress hormones are circulating in the body, it can damage the blood vessels and increase blood pressure.
LENS neurofeedback can help to calm down this over-reaction to the stressors that we encounter in our lives. Give it a try.
Broken Heart Syndrome.....
Yes, there is such a thing as broken heart syndrome. If it feels like your heart is broken, then it could be exhibiting what is also called takotsubo. This is a Japanese fishing pot used to trap octopuses. The heart actually weakens and the muscles of the left ventricle enlarge. The heart actually changes shape due to extreme emotions or stress, such as the loss of a loved one. This condition looks like a heart attack and mimics a heart attack, with chest pains and shortness of breathe. However, this does not have a long lasting effect. This symptom is not found with everyone, just a few of us.
Please see your doctor right away if you have any of these symptoms.
There is a connection to the brain. And these connections are the areas that control the stress response, they quit working as well. There tend to be fewer connections with the emotional processing and autonomic nervous system. If the connections are weak, then the actions associated with the connections are weak.
Give LENS a try. It can work wonders for the brain connections.
Concessions, what to do?????
There are lots of different levels of concessions. Here is a list of some of the side effects, or should I say the effects of concession.
There can be headaches, sometimes accompanied by nausea and all of this is made worse by external noise, light, strong odors, and motion. This is all due to a malfunction in the brain. The malfunction can lead to trouble with expressing complex thoughts and can make the person angry and confused with trying to express these thoughts. An easy task can become hard and there can be a short fuse. The person can blame the caregiver for things that the other person had not done. There can be an intense disorientation, for example not knowing the time of day or how much time has elapsed. There can be a lack of memory.
A good analogy for this kind of concept is to think of a peach that has been dropped, there is bruising on the outside, but if you open it up then the peach is bruised down into the flesh. This can lead to an interruption in the basic body functions. This is mainly thought to be irreversible. But......
LENS neurofeedback can help to get the brain up and functioning at a better level. It can help the GABA that has been stuck in these areas to loosen up and start functioning at a better level.
Hello, my name is Dana Lee Collins M.A.,L.P.C. I am a psychotherapist that has been trained in the art of neurofeedback. This science helps to heal the brain of trauma. I am dedicated to helping people heal.