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Many people avoid difficult conversations because they misjudge how they and the other person will feel. We like to predict how the person will react to our conversation. An honest talk with a close friend will help to resolve a conflict. However, to get to that conversation can create a great deal of trepidation. It is not comfortable to have the conversation, but the outcome, if we approach the subject in a benign manner, can create a closer more understanding relationship and we can be winners.
The researchers have investigated this subject, and have found that if we have the conversation the other person will not (usually) react in the negative way that we thought they would. This is because the conversation can help the ones involved to experience the broader sense of a relationship and get to be closer. If the intents are good then the outcome can be good. If the conversation is not resolved in a manner that helps all of those involved, then an option could be to get a trusted other involved. This could be a therapist or a friend. Give it a try we need to create more understanding.
LENS neurofeedback can help the brain to heal and so create a calmer approach to life.
Researchers at the University of Gresswald- Germany looked to the problem of stress. There have been many studies on mice, but we are different. The people from this University found a way of measuring cortisol in the brains of people who had been diagnosed with mental health problems in relation to people that had a more balanced way of dealing with stress. Most of the problems arise from the belief in your ability to conquer challenges. And this can lead to anxiety and worry that can seem out of control, if you are unable to cope.
What the researchers found was that people can become more alert to new outside factors if they have been under chronic stress. The researchers tested peoples ability to recall pictures and found that the people with higher cortisol, saw more false positives of pictures. Their over stimulated amygdala was in hyper drive. If there are constant shocks to the system, then our memory becomes hijacked. So we have poorer memory recall.
So constant stress can impair your mental health and ability to function in the world. Higher cortisol can decrease your ability to cope.
LENS can create a calmer, less reactive mind. It works!!
How do we get through this life of ours? We work at our jobs (which I hope you love, if not find another way). We interact with others ( and also I hope in a meaningful way, if not find another way). However, how we love ourselves, does not depend on how others perceive us, what they feel, think. or say. I can see the guys rolling their eyes. We can love ourselves without the approval of our friends, boss or partner. In fact, if we do take care of ourselves, then others are interested in how we interact in the world.
Here are a few ways of finding a better core self. Do our values and actions meet? Are we telling the truth about how we are feeling? Are we talking about others, behind their backs, with negativity and judgement? Do we need to shine a light on our own behavior and negativity? In other words, what are you trying to hide? Most of the time when we find that others are not acting in a perfect way, we find the imperfections in ourselves. Can we find a way to love our imperfections that only make us more human?
I found a way to look at this life of mine. I work at looking at the good things and the mistakes that I made in the day and make a plan to work out the mistakes and shine a light on how I am good. I do this before I go to sleep. I usually sleep better.
I am working on finding friends that challenge and love me the way that I am. I want them to love me the way that I am, but are willing to show up and tell me how I can improve. This is done from the heart. I value these people like gold.
I also find ways to get some humor in the conversations that I have. I like to tease people about their perceived imperfections.
LENS neurofeedback helps the brain to function in a smooth good way. It helps the brain to heal. It can also help with body pain.
Here is some information from the University of Sussex. They worked with some computer programs and used two different scents, vanilla and lemon. The results were compiled into some interesting conclusions. The researchers found that the scent of lemon helped people to have a thinner image of themselves. They chose to look at images of thinner and more spiked images. When the participates were given vanilla they chose images of heavier and thicker images. This can help to lead to a more acceptable body image and improve self-esteem. This is especially important for women, they are judged by their appearance more than men. So ladies shine on with the glow of a lemon. Shall we find the lemon dance.
LENS can help to keep the brain waves working in a balanced and happier way.
I have been writing this blog for awhile. I like to do research and share what I have found. Anxiety seems to be tossed around a good deal these days. What is the root of this problem? I believe that we have been sending ourselves into a frenzy over so many small things. Do I look O.K. for women? For men am I performing at the top of the world? I just found some hints to use to help to calm things down.
Are we accumulating too much stuff? Do we have room for that 70 inch T.V. that we want to impress our friends with?
Can we step outside and enjoy the nature side of life. Are there flowers growing around were I live? Do I bring some indoors? Do I have plants to take care of?
Is there a dog hanging around to be petted?
Do I have soothing colors in my home? Are they kicking me around or are they reminding me of Kauai and the ocean.
Are my lights glaring at me? Or are they away from where I sleep? Many questions to ask..
LENS helps to calm down the over active brain. It helps to recenter and detox.
Hello, my name is Dana Lee Collins M.A.,L.P.C. I am a psychotherapist that has been trained in the art of neurofeedback. This science helps to heal the brain of trauma. I am dedicated to helping people heal.