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Here are the ways that we approach conflict in our relationships. This is from an article in Psychology Today by Peter Coleman, PhD. These ideas are not about pointing fingers to get the one up. It is just to become aware of How We Work In the World. More than likely this is how we learned about conflict from our parents.
LENS neurofeedback will help with anxiety.
Some of the researchers at Yale have found a connection in the brain related to a religious experience. This experience is not just related to the saints and the church, it can be related to going to a football game. The researcher's name is Marc Potenza, he works in the field of psychology.
The area of the brain that was found to decrease in activity is in the parietal region. This region is in charge of sensation, spatial orientation, language and attention. The decrease in activity creates a sense of a loss of boundaries between ourselves and others. It can be reduced or eliminated.
So this area shifts perception and buffers stress. It can help to increase intellectual abilities and help with the emotions. It can also help to keep an open mind.
I have found that LENS can help with opening up the areas of the brain that can lead to this improvement. Give it a try.
I have seen many people come in and out of my office. I often wonder what is going on with their underlying trauma. Some of what I see is the feeling of being vulnerable. What if I am not good enough to get this help? What will others think of me getting this help? Am I weak because I am getting help?
I would like to look at these feelings. People who know that they could use help, have a hard time doing it. Oh, I think that if I hang in there this will get better. Then the slide into the dark stuff starts happening again. Please know that to shine a light of understanding into these places is good. And that it takes others (at times) to help you get out of that self-destructive loop.
Research has found that OCD can come from having been in a critical environment growing up. That loop is stuck in the brain, The brain says I need a break, this is the lower limbic system.
Depression and Anxiety are strongly related to lack of self-compassion and can mean that there is a lack of compassion for others. We just don't want to be vulnerable.
Come in and try LENS, during these stressful times, we really can teach ourselves to be calm. It is gentle and noninvasive. And better than that alcohol. Alcohol sales have gone up 240 percent.
I have been working on my house; painting, cleaning, and organizing. I have found some pretty old things that need to be used up or thrown away. This act of cleaning has helped me to focus on what I can do. I have grown weary of the news and how it has affected so many people. I know that the hospitals are full of people that are in a very high stress state. How can I help?
Here are a few things to become aware of. One is something called rumination. This is when there is extreme brooding and dwelling on negative thoughts. This makes us feel paralyzed and worthless. We have a choice in this kind of situation. Remember we can only think one thought at a time. So, how about moving over that dread and make some room for a little bit of fun. Getting aware of your breathe and calming down those bad guys that want to take us over. We can create a better future by learning to get out of these negative loops. All of the sudden good things start happening around us and we wonder were it all came from.
The next thought process is called Negative Bias. This is finding it hard to believe or receive positive information. This leads to catastrophic thinking and getting stuck. That mud gets pretty thick. How about getting away from the news? These people are paid to do this job, but we need to understand that this is getting us in the mud. So what are you grateful for? This can lead to getting better things happening again. Keep it up and soon you will find that you are not so overwhelmed. Please don't beat yourself up for the stress, just learn to understand it.
LENS can help the brain and body to calm down.
All of this discord about staying at home and staying away from others and staying away from...almost everything....Keep your face shield up, don't touch....This part of life is very different then all of the running around and quickness....
What can we do to get around all of this uncertainty? This worry about our jobs and family and financial stability.
About the only solution I can come up with is to enjoy the quiet. I know that all of those little monsters of ideas keep coming up, the negative thoughts and disturbance. But to quiet these things down, we need to quiet ourselves down. If you give it some time quietness becomes like your therapy. It will eventually help you to cope.
What the quiet and solitude have to offer is a heightening of perception. Then if you keep following it, you will have an increase of intensity and connection with your surroundings.. This will help you to feel better and will increase your happiness. You will soon find that each moment is a gift.
LENS helps this kind of awareness to awaken.
I feels like it is in the air...This fear and worry. It can bring concerns about your own and other peoples health, including your family. This health is related to your physical or mental health. These things can get worse when there is so much uncertainty, we are chasing a ghost. This can also lead to changes in your sleep and concentration. Then we want to escape all of this tension and get lost in alcohol, drugs and smoking. But then we have to come back to reality.
One of the things that I keep hoping for out of all of this crisis, is that people learn to help each other. We are not able to see smiles as much, but even this can help another to cope. The exchange will help everyone because we are looking at their eyes and seeing the compassion there.
If we just take a few minutes to breathe. This is part of the box breathing that the Navy Seals practice. Breath in hold for 4 seconds, out for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds and again. This is a great way to get your higher brain functions working, so you can work out what needs to be done.
I wish you all good mental and physical health.
Remember, stress is being here and wanting to be there.
Hello, my name is Dana Lee Collins M.A.,L.P.C. I am a psychotherapist that has been trained in the art of neurofeedback. This science helps to heal the brain of trauma. I am dedicated to helping people heal.