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Nonviolent Communication......

7/29/2020

Follow these 4 basic steps outlined by Dr Marshall Rosenberg, founder and director of educational services for The Center for Nonviolent Communication, to practice NVC:

Observe the situation objectively. ...
State how the observation is making you feel. ...
Connect with a need. ... an internal observation
Make a request
I am concerned with the amount of problems that people are having with basic communication. Nonviolent Communication has researched and found a way to work through good communication. There seems to be too many unmet needs between people and organizations. We need to be the ones that are taking responsibility with how we are feeling, our emotions and what we need. Anger is just trying to tell us that we need something, perhaps from someone. We have to learn to be able to process these emotions, and what the needs are behind these emotions, and not create problems. If we lash out, we know that our needs are not being met.

LENS helps to calm the mind and brain so we can become the creators of our life.

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The reason that we have anger....

7/27/2020

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I have a good deal of admiration for the late Marshall B. Rosenberg. He created a system of communication that works. It is called Nonviolent Communication.

Most of us live with the idea that anger is supposed to be suppressed.....Wrong
Anger is a gift that challenges us to connect to the unmet needs that have triggered this reaction.
If we sit on it, we can become sick or lash out.
We can learn to make judgment free observations.
We can get clear about our feelings and needs.
We can make clear requests.
We can support life-enriching connections .
We can have a healthy response to anger and live from our hearts.

LENS can help us to be able to be clear about what we need, without all of the old triggers. Join me.

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July 22nd, 2020

7/22/2020

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What if we can learn that the undesirable or bad emotions are something that we can feel? That they do not need to be medicated away. What if we learned that mental health is not the absence of mental pain? What if we can learn to have a meaningful, bumpy life.
Please understand that some people do need help with debilitating emotional states of anxiety, depression, etc.
Anxiety is our perception that bad stuff will happen, but how are we going to handle it?
Brene Brown praises vulnerability, struggle and adversity. She teaches that hope is what we learn from struggle.
Thich Nhat Hanh teaches that the lotus flower cannot bloom without the mud.
Kelly Mcgonigal a Health Psychologist at Stanford studies how we can learn that the stress response is good. Oh, my heart rate is going up, that means that I am ready for this challenge.
This is stuff that gives me the good juice.

LENS helps with the reactive process. It calms the brain down. It helps with taking a step back.

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Loneliness is a problem....

7/17/2020

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It looks as though we are heading into some more isolation. When we are alone the brain stays in a state of alert. I know that mine has. This creates a multitude of problems.

It creates wear and tear on the body I have been working with a exercise person. Boy, I did not realize how out of shape I was.
The body creates more cortisol and norepinephrine. These are our stress hormones or natural drugs. They also run around in your brain.
These things can create sleeplessness, weight gain, and anxiety.
NASA has been studying these affects on the astronauts. They exhibit reduced cognition.
Some ways to cope include, keeping focused on what you have to do, journal, and get a hobby.

LENS can help you to feel better. It calms you down and helps you to focus.

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Understanding others.......

7/6/2020

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Would you like to learn a few tricks about how to get a good conversation going, even if your feeling anger or frustration at the time.

First of all don't assume that you know the other persons intent.

Ask questions to clarify what the other person was trying to express.

Learn to understand the other person's situation.

Where was the person coming from?
Why did they feel that their actions where appropriate at the time.

Explain why the conversation matters.

Why is this important?

There seems to be a good deal of reactivity going on with people. We need to find other ways to communicate that involves the higher thinking centers of the brain. When we are angry or frustrated, the conversation can wait until everyone is calmed down. The lower brain center just wants to keep us protected and does not understand how to create better relationships.

Give LENS a try. It helps with depression, anxiety and the need to fight back.

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Nonviolent Communication......

The reason that we have anger....

July 22nd, 2020

Loneliness is a problem....

Understanding others.......

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