Come to the calm of a well functioning brain.
Solitude seems to be what we are all running away from. We are on social media at all hours of the day. Peering into other peoples lives and finding limited time to be by ourselves. This becomes something called group think. We are not allowed to have a independent thought, it might cause too many waves. Well why can't the wave of self-awareness take over. Self-awareness isn't that some kind of hippy talk? No, even Plato explained what it was about , so many years ago.
When you become attuned to your inner world, then your soul can speak. The self is the part of ourselves that we can never get away from, except when you choose to stop thinking and join the other many non-thinkers.
Even Ralph Waldo Emerson spoke of it, solitude, in his writings. He spoke of, "periods and habits of solitude, and habits of serious and abstracted thought that would be made possible".
So beware of mind numbing conformity. This is what has lead people like Eichmann to wield his machine of death.
I spend a great deal of time in this place of solitude. I enjoy the view from here. Except I would like to invite you to join me for a LENS neurofeedback session so that your brain can work at it's best, whether you are alone or with others.
What is this concept about? Silence, really? Why bother with this kind of concept?
The head guys in Finland decided that they would capitalize on this concept of Silence. Their new brand is "Silence Please" and it is taking off.
What really happens with silence is that it turns on the noise in your head. It can calm your body, turn up the volume on your inner thoughts and attune our connect to the outer world.
The opposite of this is noise. The Latin root meaning is queasiness or pain. Florence Nighingale stated that, "Unnecessary noise is the most cruel absence of care that can be inflicted on the sick or well".
Chronic noise from highways or airports, has been related to high blood pressure. Noise can also be correlated to sleep loss, heart disease and tinnitus. The noise is taken into the bones of the ear, to the cochlea, to the brain and then the amyglae sends out the stress signal and bam we have cortisol running through our system.
Even in silence the default mode of the prefrontal cortex of the brain is perpetually active mostly with self-reflection. Freedom from noise and goal-directed tasks creates quiet within and without. This is how we can weave ourselves into the world.
Take a stand. Turn off the T.V., the music and whatever other distracters. Let the silence in, your hippocampus might just grow some new connections.
LENS neurofeedback can help the brain to find the sweet spot. It can help you to become calm and less distracted.
I am sorry, but I do not have one for you. But here are some ideas to help you to find a good fit.
Find out what exasperates you! I have a limited ability to be compassionate when people are decidedly lacking in their ability to do their job. I have patience, however, if the person is exhibiting dullness towards what they are doing, please find a place that fits you better. There is a reason that you do not fit there. What are your habits? Are they getting in the way? Are you expecting others to fill in for you? What drives you? We do have a job to do. It is part of the fabric of life.
What compliments do you dismiss? Learn to listen to what others are saying about your abilities. So you have to shake it up a little to get where you want to be, so be it.
What do you think about, when you have nothing to think about? This is the underlying mechanism to your valuable self. I like to read, so I am always thinking of something that will make me wake up to this life of my choice.
Can you find new ideas to fit into what your doing now? Can you acknowledge the piece of yourself that is laying dormant, that wants to come out and say hello. Are you doing what others think you should be doing with your life? Are you feeling at a dead end? Get brave and dig this part of yourself out. I know a good career counselor.
Draw on your strengths. What keeps you going? Find projects that make the most of your strengths.
LENS neurofeedback can help you to clear out the clutter and get you on the right track with your life.
I am the type of person that does not like social labels. I believe that each person has a value and a strength that is individual. However, this is a subject that is worth looking into. Please don't take this personally and run around with this label so that you don't push yourself to do better. Social anxiety can be described as "self consciousness on steroids" (Ellen Hendriksen). Social anxiety is a perception that there is something embarrassing and deficient about us, and that we must hide or conceal what is wrong. We could be rejected or judged for what this flaw is all about. So this comes down to what we have perceived with our internal self as a big "I am not worthy". If you can remember who told you that then your onto something big.
However, if we have this complex, of social anxiety, hen we do have some positive characteristics. The strengths can be high standards, empathy, being helpful and altruistic. You could be a good listener, be conscientious and work hard.
So what can we do to become a more coordinated person? First of all, we have to take action. We need to get specific about out fears. Who and what is going to hate you. Look to the worse case scenario. Also ask your self "how bad can it really be". So if we put on our shoes and just get out of the door and see that we can deal with what ever pops up. Whose the hero then?
We really can't control what other people think and do. We can show up as the wonderful people that we are and walk away if that is not compatible. My favorite professor once said that having to have everyone like you was one of the sickest things that you could do.
LENS neurofeedback heals the brain of tangles. Come and get de-tangled.
Hello, I am a psychotherapist that has been trained in the art of neurofeedback. This science helps to heal the brain of trauma. I am dedicated to helping people heal.