Come to the calm of a well functioning brain.
|
Here is some information about luck and how to have it. There is research going on about this theme. Much of the information that I found had a subjective theme. This means that we need to believe that we have good luck. Belief in luck goes with having feelings of control, optimism and low anxiety. Lets take an example, you show up for a date feeling relaxed, confident and positive. You will look more appealing to the other person. People who feel lucky work harder and plan better. They are better at predicting better outcomes. Another example of this would be, you have a big print job coming up. The person that feels lucky plans ahead to make sure that there is enough ink. The person who feels unlucky has less than happy outcomes. They have a lower ability to organize (why didn't I get more ink) and plan.
Part of this stems from the idea of "Why me". This is what is called an upward comparison. Why weren't these other people in an accident or assaulted. Others feel happy that they survived an accident and compare themselves to others who have had worse fates. This later view helps to hold onto optimism, and gratitude. This makes you feel lucky in life. The wounds can be healed and there can be another shot at success. With this time at hand, I hope that all of you are safe and lucky. Keep a good outlook, things will get better. LENS works!!!
0 Comments
Why worry
There are only two things to worry about: either you are well or you are sick. If you are well, then there is nothing to worry about: but if you are sick; there are two things for you to worry about: either you will get well or you will die. If you get well, then there is nothing to worry about. If you die: then there are two things to worry about: either you go up or you go down. If you go up, then there is nothing to worry about. But if you go down you will be so busy shaking hands with old friends you won't have time to worry. I hope that all is well. Try LENS neurofeedback, it calms the brain and nerves. Here is some research that I found about LOVE.
Stress can cause about 90% of illnesses. The cortisol gets in our systems with the elevated thoughts of AHHHH!!!! and off we go. So here are some simple things to do." There is a theory of love languages by Gary Chapman. Some people like different things to be presented to them by their partner. One of these things is to spend quality time together. Most of the men that have been researched like physical touch (or sex). And then other people like words of affirmation. Personally I like all of the above. There are some other researchers that have found other ways of feeling loved. Many people like words of compassion in difficult times. And high on the list was a child snuggling with you or the happiness of a pet when you come home. And then just saying the words, "I love you". These are simple things that we need to enjoy when life is handing us all of the stressors these days. LENS neurofeedback can help you to feel better. Laughter stimulates endorphin. This is the natural opioid in the body. The word endorphin stems from endogenous morphine. We only get little drips of it when we laugh, but that is a natural way of feeling good. What endorphin job to do is to mask pain, not necessarily to feel good. It can help us out, to not go into a negative spiral. When we go into the negative spiral we create a threat in the low brain area. First we scan for details (like an antelope that smells a lion, which way should I run.). Cortisol stays in the brain for an hour. During that time we can find many things to get us triggered. So during that time we can find a good reason to laugh. Think of it as a personal training program, we just use our laughter storage. This article is taken from Psychology Today.
LENS neurofeedback can help to get the brain balanced. It works. Who is the happiest of man? He who values the merits of others and in their pleasure takes joy, even though it was his own.~ Goethe
So you want to have a better relationship? How about trying out sharing positive feelings for the successes of others. It is important to celebrate the successes of others especially in a romantic relationship. This adds the cement to the foundation. It is important to be happy about the others success and be enthusiastic and not competitive or envious. It is also important to take the time to find out the details of success and show respect. We need to give our time and care to the benefit of the other. This will create a bond that will help the person when life starts throwing curve balls and we can't get out of the way. We need the support of others when life gets difficult. One of the things that gets in the way of relationships can be envy. We can starve a relationship with this reaction or we can become aware and find a way to communicate this negative effect. This will clear the way for the positive support that we all crave. LENS neurofeedback can help us to work through the suppressed emotions. It helps to get the unconscious, conscious. We have all done things in our life that have hurt others. However, there are those that have done things that are far worse. And the interesting thing is that they keep doing it. Some of the personality traits are narcissism. spitefulness, and moral disengagement. There is a combination of these traits that make up how people make it O.K. to harm others. Some researchers found one personality trait is at the core of doing evil. The researchers published their information in the Psychology Review and called this personality trait the Dark Factor of Personality or "D". This factor is identified by the degree to which people single-mindedly focus on achieving their goal while callously disregarding the harm that they cause to others. There are three components that make up this trait. The first trait is doing whatever is necessary to succeed. The second trait is purposefully interfering with other peoples goals and usually considering themselves superior to others. These traits can be considered a form of selfishness that is at it's core bad. These traits can be related to sadism and psychopathy. Get me out of here. We need to learn why these traits are created.
LENS neurofeedback heals the brain. I don't think that these kind of characters will come to the sessions unless we get them locked up. It is estimated that 40 Billion people in the U.S. have a anxiety disorder. And it is also estimated that 3 out of 4 people have been stressed in the last month. We all seem to be more self-aware of how we were feeling.
There is a difference between anxiety, worry and stress. Worry can be defined as when the mind dwells on negative thoughts or uncertain outcomes, which can lead to obsessive thoughts. This all happens in the mind and has not been connected to the body yet. The good part of worry is that it can help to problem solve or take action. And to stay safe. However, when it is stuck on go, it stops being functional. Some strategies that can help worry is to limit the amount of time that you allow yourself to worry. How about 20 minutes, and then after that consciously redirect your thoughts. Try pushing yourself to take action or the next step in a situation. Writing down your worries for 8 to 10 minutes has proven to be effective. When stress takes over, then so does the limbic system. This area tells the body and brain to release cortisol and adrenaline. This makes the heart increase its rhythm, we get clammy palms and swallow breathe. With chronic stress we stay in fight or flight mode. This can create digestive issues, increase heart disease and weakens the immune system. We can use the body to decrease stress with exercise. We can also be clear about what we can control. And a good thing to do is to not compare your stress to others. Stress is biological, body centered. Anxiety is body centered and also mind centered. It includes worry and stress. It is when we are stuck in a false alarm. Anxiety disorder is when we are again stuck in a constant go. Ways to keep the anxiety down is to limit sugar, alcohol and caffeine. Learn to check in with your body and become aware of how is is feeling. Hello Toes! When you are in the middle of an anxiety episode do not try to think or talk. Redirect yourself to your senses. Listen to music, take a walk, jump rope, keep it simple. LENS neurofeedback helps the brain to reset and become calm. |
AuthorHello, my name is Dana Lee Collins M.A.,L.P.C. I am a psychotherapist that has been trained in the art of neurofeedback. This science helps to heal the brain of trauma. I am dedicated to helping people heal. Archives
January 2021
Categories |
RSS Feed