Come to the calm of a well functioning brain.
Solitude seems to be what we are all running away from. We are on social media at all hours of the day. Peering into other peoples lives and finding limited time to be by ourselves. This becomes something called group think. We are not allowed to have a independent thought, it might cause too many waves. Well why can't the wave of self-awareness take over. Self-awareness isn't that some kind of hippy talk? No, even Plato explained what it was about , so many years ago.
When you become attuned to your inner world, then your soul can speak. The self is the part of ourselves that we can never get away from, except when you choose to stop thinking and join the other many non-thinkers.
Even Ralph Waldo Emerson spoke of it, solitude, in his writings. He spoke of, "periods and habits of solitude, and habits of serious and abstracted thought that would be made possible".
So beware of mind numbing conformity. This is what has lead people like Eichmann to wield his machine of death.
I spend a great deal of time in this place of solitude. I enjoy the view from here. Except I would like to invite you to join me for a LENS neurofeedback session so that your brain can work at it's best, whether you are alone or with others.
What is this concept about? Silence, really? Why bother with this kind of concept?
The head guys in Finland decided that they would capitalize on this concept of Silence. Their new brand is "Silence Please" and it is taking off.
What really happens with silence is that it turns on the noise in your head. It can calm your body, turn up the volume on your inner thoughts and attune our connect to the outer world.
The opposite of this is noise. The Latin root meaning is queasiness or pain. Florence Nighingale stated that, "Unnecessary noise is the most cruel absence of care that can be inflicted on the sick or well".
Chronic noise from highways or airports, has been related to high blood pressure. Noise can also be correlated to sleep loss, heart disease and tinnitus. The noise is taken into the bones of the ear, to the cochlea, to the brain and then the amyglae sends out the stress signal and bam we have cortisol running through our system.
Even in silence the default mode of the prefrontal cortex of the brain is perpetually active mostly with self-reflection. Freedom from noise and goal-directed tasks creates quiet within and without. This is how we can weave ourselves into the world.
Take a stand. Turn off the T.V., the music and whatever other distracters. Let the silence in, your hippocampus might just grow some new connections.
LENS neurofeedback can help the brain to find the sweet spot. It can help you to become calm and less distracted.
I am sorry, but I do not have one for you. But here are some ideas to help you to find a good fit.
Find out what exasperates you! I have a limited ability to be compassionate when people are decidedly lacking in their ability to do their job. I have patience, however, if the person is exhibiting dullness towards what they are doing, please find a place that fits you better. There is a reason that you do not fit there. What are your habits? Are they getting in the way? Are you expecting others to fill in for you? What drives you? We do have a job to do. It is part of the fabric of life.
What compliments do you dismiss? Learn to listen to what others are saying about your abilities. So you have to shake it up a little to get where you want to be, so be it.
What do you think about, when you have nothing to think about? This is the underlying mechanism to your valuable self. I like to read, so I am always thinking of something that will make me wake up to this life of my choice.
Can you find new ideas to fit into what your doing now? Can you acknowledge the piece of yourself that is laying dormant, that wants to come out and say hello. Are you doing what others think you should be doing with your life? Are you feeling at a dead end? Get brave and dig this part of yourself out. I know a good career counselor.
Draw on your strengths. What keeps you going? Find projects that make the most of your strengths.
LENS neurofeedback can help you to clear out the clutter and get you on the right track with your life.
I am the type of person that does not like social labels. I believe that each person has a value and a strength that is individual. However, this is a subject that is worth looking into. Please don't take this personally and run around with this label so that you don't push yourself to do better. Social anxiety can be described as "self consciousness on steroids" (Ellen Hendriksen). Social anxiety is a perception that there is something embarrassing and deficient about us, and that we must hide or conceal what is wrong. We could be rejected or judged for what this flaw is all about. So this comes down to what we have perceived with our internal self as a big "I am not worthy". If you can remember who told you that then your onto something big.
However, if we have this complex, of social anxiety, hen we do have some positive characteristics. The strengths can be high standards, empathy, being helpful and altruistic. You could be a good listener, be conscientious and work hard.
So what can we do to become a more coordinated person? First of all, we have to take action. We need to get specific about out fears. Who and what is going to hate you. Look to the worse case scenario. Also ask your self "how bad can it really be". So if we put on our shoes and just get out of the door and see that we can deal with what ever pops up. Whose the hero then?
We really can't control what other people think and do. We can show up as the wonderful people that we are and walk away if that is not compatible. My favorite professor once said that having to have everyone like you was one of the sickest things that you could do.
LENS neurofeedback heals the brain of tangles. Come and get de-tangled.
What makes a face beautiful and how does it affect other people in our environment? First of all a women's face should have exaggerated features, with large eyes and a small jaw. The male face should represent a more aggressive features. His face should be more square and have heavier eyebrows. Are we getting the picture. Scientists are actually studying these features to see what is behind these ideal features.
If a women has the attractive facial features then they are supposed to be healthier. They have higher levels of sex hormones and are resistant to infectious diseases. They will make a good mate.
The males are supposed to be able to climb the highest mountain and bring home dinner. They should have larger structures and square features.
What if this ideal has been shook up. Resent research has shown that the correlation to attractiveness and the brain's encoding of health and good off-spring is false. So all of the average people out there can breathe easier.
LENS neurofeedback can cut through the clutter and get us up and running at an optimal rate. Give it a try.
Forgiveness.... There are so many different levels of this subject. So what is at the bottom of it? Finding compassion for those that have hurt us in the past and ourselves? Forgiveness could mean being able to see this life in the light of the present. Are you carrying around a big bag of resentment that is weighing you down? How do you drop it? Is it an act of self compassion to say, WOW that could have changed at the time but it did not. I was not able to show up at the time. And the other person was not able to show up either. That was part of their ability to function at the time and mine also. We can blame many things, environment, being in a stressful situation that caused failure. People (including ourselves) not having the skills at the time to function in the best way.
We do not have to return to the same relationship or accept harmful behaviors from others who have hurt us. We can walk away.
What if it was sexual abuse? We could always not forgive. This is an option. But wait a minute is that festering stuff inside me tied to that ugliness? What do I do with this stuff. Get some help if you need it. Would writing about it help? Sometimes this has a denial piece about it. The family is all against it. Where do I go from here? Many times the wrong things have been said.
Forgiveness can be challenging. What if the other party cannot offer a sincere apology or anything. Again what if they deny the offense?
What is the healthiest path? We need to know that the wound is there, understand the other person, process the emotions.
What if we have harmed the other person? Take responsibility, and acknowledge our mistakes.
There are three levels of forgiveness. First, I forgive you and we are OK. We can reset the situation and go on.
Second, I forgive you but this has happened in the past and I am having a hard time with trusting you. I don't know if I can continue the way we were before.
Third, there is no way that I will forgive you, I do not trust you and we will not be
LENS neurofeedback can help to muck out the junk and create a healthier brain environment.
I wish you courage to be warm when the world would prefer that you be cool.
I wish you success sufficient to your needs;
I wish you failure to temper that success.
I wish you joy in all your days;
I wish you sadness so that you may better measure joy.
I wish you gladness to over balance your grief.
I wish you humor and a twinkle in your eye.
I wish you glory and the strength to bear its burdens.
I wish you sunshine on your path and health to carry you on your journey.
I wish you peace—in the world in which you live and the smallest corner of your heart where truth is kept
I wish you faith--to help define your living and your life.
More I cannot wish you-except perhaps love—to make the rest worthwhile.
Robert A Ward
I have read some articles lately that have really intrigued me. One of the articles was about how scientists have found that there are still connections in the brain of a mouse, even when those connections have been severed and put into close proximity to each other. The other article that I will talk about more today is about our brains ability to continue to store the memory of a limb that is no longer there.
We have places in our brain that directs the processes of our body. Scientists have discovered these places for where fingers should be when they are no longer there. They have also investigated if these places would be apparent in the brains of people that were born without a limb or fingers. They have been unable to find the brain response to these areas of no limbs, with someone that was born without a limb. What is next for this kind of research is that they will try to find if the brain can be stimulated to help the people that have an artificial limb. We are amazing!
I read another article about replacing the limb with a graft from another person. They have had varied results, mostly because our bodies are programed to reject anything that is foreign. There are drugs, but the effectiveness of these drugs can cause problems with the other systems in our bodies.
LENS helps with getting the brain up and running in the correct way. I have not been able to work with people with missing limbs. It would be interesting to try. I do not claim to be able to grow another limb but it could help with the mental anguish that would go along with this problem.
We all have a certain level of fear. This could be a life saving kind of, get me out of this dangerous situation (Lions and Tigers and Bears, OH My....) However, when these fears become overwhelming, when the situation is relatively harmless, help is needed. When a memory is formed in the brain, proteins are formed. And when the memory is retrieved then a new protein is formed. Scientists are researching how to interfere with this new protein formation with targeted medications.
But here is the rub (is that why my right shoulder is in pain?). What memory do we suppress? There could be links to other situations that create the fear.
Other ways that they are researching memories is associated with the heart beat. Researchers are trying to match the heart beat with an image. If the image of a spider is presented (if you have a fear, I just don't like that bite.), if it is presented with the heart beat then the fear decreases. This is called exposure therapy. This is found to not be very effective with PTSD.
Anyway, why not try LENS neurofeedback. We do know that it calms down the brain so that it is not so tangled up. We can stop the tango and just get calm.
Hello, I am a psychotherapist that has been trained in the art of neurofeedback. This science helps to heal the brain of trauma. I am dedicated to helping people heal.