Breaking away from automatic thoughts.....

The number one thing that can help you to get out of the, hummm, what do I do with this spoon concept, is to improve your social diversity.  This means going and finding people that are not the same as you.  This means finding people who aren't like us with our values, preferences, and personality traits.  When we are forced to use a spoon for digging in the ground or for logging peas at someone, then we are using our brain in a different manner.  We are creating new brain connections, in the neurons, and our brains are forced to produce complex and unexpected information.  This helps us to look beyond the obvious, which leads to creative thinking. 
Some ways of stimulating this new brain arrangement is to go to other countries and see how their social norms differ from us.  We can watch foreign films and read books about people from a different social background.  We can learn to enjoy the arts, and learn to use the different perspectives of the artist mind.  We can try to understand the perspective of people with a different religious perspective.  What about someone with a different skin color.  This is such a small area of the DNA, it is a wonder that we use the stereotypes that we do.  We are not that far away from each other in our genetic makeup.  

LENS neurofeedback can help to open up the pathways to explore a different way of approaching the world.  It is a calmer, worthwhile area to be.