Claim your values....

I live in an area where there was a gold rush, many people seeking gold.  Shall we pause for a little while and look into what could be a gold mine for yourself.
Looking into and researching what your core values are can create a strong foundation.  We all remember the story of the three pigs.  Our character is defined by our values.  And these core values are the result of your behavior. 
Here is a quote by Aristotle, "Men acquire a particular quality by constantly acting in a particular way".
An example would be to tell the truth, always.  An honest person is what we become.  This is simple, yet we tend to underestimate the value of core values.  Values impact our inner world, they form the foundation of our character.  And this in turn creates value for yourself, the person that we must love the most.  If we have a high quality of character then it is reflected in our environment.
So this is an important thing to do.  Research your OWN core values.  If you don't then you will try to take on others values and your foundation becomes weak and washes into the sea.  Create your own identity, don't lean on others for yourself.

LENS neurofeedback is a good way of becoming more discerning.  We become more aware of our environment and understand our interactions better.