Come to the calm of a well functioning brain.
We have so many obligations these days. We have multiple areas that we need to delegate our time too. Here are some ideas to help you trim off the excess that we tend to acquire.
One time saver is to ask questions. So your on a new job and the boss hands you something that makes no sense. Do I look foolish and ask more questions or do I forge on. Many times asking for clarification can help with the issue and save time. Ask for others expertise with a problem and they will be happy to comply. If you act like you already know the solution when you don't, then you create a barrier to gaining a better relationship. Children always ask questions, what prevents you from doing the same.
Have you been in a relationship that just keeps getting worse? Do you keep trying or have you given up. When is the best time to exit? Is this a bump in the road, or is the pattern so ingrained that you can't get around it? We don't like rejection, and we don't like to do it to others. We want to be liked and will keep going back into the situation to find a level of self-esteem. What if this is just a bad match of being similar to another human being? Step back and take a look at all angles including your own.
We are all good at dwelling on our old mistakes and shortcomings. What if we just allow ourselves to fail As Albert Einstein stated, "Failure is success in progress". I was once in a position of trying to please a person that was in charge of my life with my education. I was very dedicated to making my way through this experience. No matter what I did, I could not please this person that was in charge of my life. I had to find another way out. So I did. I have came to a place in my life where I will work with myself to find my fault in any situation and try to not react with the amygdala. If that doesn't work then I move on. I will at times express my anger, in a short boundary setting way. Goodbye!
This is getting too long.
I hope to see you at LENS soon to get your brain up and running well. It helps with keeping this life of ours calm and centered.
Hello, my name is Dana Lee Collins M.A.,L.P.C. I am a psychotherapist that has been trained in the art of neurofeedback. This science helps to heal the brain of trauma. I am dedicated to helping people heal.