Self Care....Self Esteem....Self Love....

How do we get through this life of ours?  We work at our jobs (which I hope you love, if not find another way).  We interact with others ( and also I hope in a meaningful way, if not find another way).  However, how we love ourselves, does not depend on how others perceive us, what they feel, think. or say.  I can see the guys rolling their eyes.  We can love ourselves without the approval of our friends, boss or partner.  In fact, if we do take care of ourselves, then others are interested in how we interact in the world. 
Here are a few ways of finding a better core self.  Do our values and actions meet?  Are we telling the truth about how we are feeling?  Are we talking about others, behind their backs, with negativity and judgement?  Do we need to shine a light on our own behavior and negativity?   In other words, what are you trying to hide?  Most of the time when we find that others are not acting in a perfect way, we find the imperfections in ourselves.  Can we find a way to love our imperfections that only make us more human?
I found a way to look at this life of mine.  I work at looking at the good things and the mistakes that I made in the day and make a plan to work out the mistakes and shine a light on how I am good.  I do this before I go to sleep.  I usually sleep better.
I am working on finding friends that challenge and love me the way that I am.  I want them to love me the way that I am, but are willing to show up and tell me how I can improve.  This is done from the heart.  I value these people like gold.
I also find ways to get some humor in the conversations that I have.  I like to tease people about their perceived imperfections. 

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