Social Anxiety.....

I am the type of person that does not like social labels.  I believe that each person has a value and a strength that is individual.  However, this is a subject that is worth looking into.  Please don't take  this personally and run around with this label so that you don't push yourself to do better.  Social anxiety can be described as "self consciousness on steroids" (Ellen Hendriksen).  Social anxiety is a perception that there is something embarrassing and deficient about us, and that we must hide or conceal what is wrong.  We could be rejected or judged for what this flaw is all about.  So this comes down to what we have perceived with our internal self as a big "I am not worthy".  If you can remember who told you that then your onto something big.   
However, if we have this complex, of social anxiety, hen we do have some positive characteristics.  The strengths can be high standards, empathy, being helpful and altruistic.  You could be a good listener, be conscientious and work hard.
So what can we do to become a more coordinated person? First of all, we have to take action.  We need to get specific about out fears.  Who and what is going to hate you.  Look to the worse case scenario.  Also ask your self "how bad can it really be".  So if we put on our shoes and just get out of the door and see that we can deal with what ever pops up.  Whose the hero then?
We really can't control what other people think and do.  We can show up as the wonderful people that we are and walk away if that is not compatible.  My favorite professor once said that having to have everyone like you was one of the sickest things that you could do.

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