Stephen Covey's 5th Habit....

The fifth habit is Seek First to Understand, then to be understood.  This habit requires big ears or hears.  Communication is the most important skill in life.  We have been trained to read and write.  Listening is the key to really deeply understand another human being from that persons perspective.  Then work to be understood.  Next to physical survival, psychological survival is a great need.  We all need to be affirmed, to be appreciated, and to be understood.  Most people listen with the intent to reply and not to understand.  This type of listening requires that you use empathic listening.  All of your energies are on being with the other person in real time,  Forget about yourself and your response.  When you respond from your own perspective it is usually to evaluate, probe, advise or interpret.
 
Genuine listening means suspending memory, desire, and judgement and for a few moments, at least, existing for the other person.  Michael P. Nichols

LENS neurofeedback can help to calm down the mind chatter, so that you can become an effective listener.  This means taking a chance and opening up your eyes and heart, not your mouth.  I hope that you like these habits, they are fundamental to becoming a genuine human being.