Understanding others.......

Would you like to learn a few tricks about how to get a good conversation going, even if your feeling anger or frustration at the time.

First of all don't assume that you know the other persons intent.

• Ask questions to clarify what the other person was trying to express.

Learn to understand the other person's situation.

• Where was the person coming from?
• Why did they feel that their actions where appropriate at the time.

Explain why the conversation matters.

• Why is this important?

There seems to be a good deal of reactivity going on with people.  We need to find other ways to communicate that involves the higher thinking centers of the brain.  When we are angry or frustrated, the conversation can wait until everyone is calmed down.  The lower brain center just wants to keep us protected and does not understand how to create better relationships. 

Give LENS a try.  It helps with depression, anxiety and the need to fight back.