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I have a good deal of admiration for the late Marshall B. Rosenberg. He created a system of communication that works. It is called Nonviolent Communication.
LENS can help us to be able to be clear about what we need, without all of the old triggers. Join me.
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What if we can learn that the undesirable or bad emotions are something that we can feel? That they do not need to be medicated away. What if we learned that mental health is not the absence of mental pain? What if we can learn to have a meaningful, bumpy life.
Please understand that some people do need help with debilitating emotional states of anxiety, depression, etc. Anxiety is our perception that bad stuff will happen, but how are we going to handle it? Brene Brown praises vulnerability, struggle and adversity. She teaches that hope is what we learn from struggle. Thich Nhat Hanh teaches that the lotus flower cannot bloom without the mud. Kelly Mcgonigal a Health Psychologist at Stanford studies how we can learn that the stress response is good. Oh, my heart rate is going up, that means that I am ready for this challenge. This is stuff that gives me the good juice. LENS helps with the reactive process. It calms the brain down. It helps with taking a step back. It looks as though we are heading into some more isolation. When we are alone the brain stays in a state of alert. I know that mine has. This creates a multitude of problems.
LENS can help you to feel better. It calms you down and helps you to focus. Would you like to learn a few tricks about how to get a good conversation going, even if your feeling anger or frustration at the time.
First of all don't assume that you know the other persons intent.
Give LENS a try. It helps with depression, anxiety and the need to fight back. I just read an article about illusions in Vox. https://www.vox.com/science-and-health/20978285/optical-illusion-science-humility-reality-polarization. Neuroscience is studying how we perceive the world and our bias. Our reality can be viewed on many different levels. But is this reality the same for all involved. We have all been raised in different environments and have different preferences. We can all see things in a different way. I believe that the trick is to check in with the other person to see if what they are seeing, feeling and understanding can parallel with our understanding, seeing and feeling.
I just spent the morning with a dear friend. She came to help me clean out some hazardous waste. We had to drive to another part of town, about an hour away. We are people that perceive the world in very different ways. She is very organized, everything is stripped down and she cooks on a certain day. I have a haphazard way of approaching life. My house can always use some more organization. I cook when the mood strikes me. My clothes are varied and sometimes frilly. Yet, I find great comfort being with her. Her generosity is beautiful, she is intelligent and gifted. I sincerely appreciate her willingness to help me. We research how we perceive the world and enjoy the differences. LENS can help you with anxiety, depression and whatever else is getting you off centered. Anxiety can relate to
The people at the University of Cambridge have some ideas.
There is a way to find relief from all of this emotional storm that has been filling our lives. We can learn to accept that life will not always be happy. We can learn that all of the emotions are acceptable. This is a practice, a healthy practice, that is considered good in Japan and China.
I keep trying to find ways to get out of this loneliness and sadness that staying at home has created. I research, because that is what I like to do. I go out side to look at the trees and scare a deer out of my backyard. Hopefully, they will come back tomorrow. I find solace in the green of the grass, the dandelion wisps floating around. In the back of my mind I keep thinking that I need to be doing something to make this better, then I take a breath and find that I can be like the deer that sleeps in my back yard. The deer teach me to accept that, there is enough grass around. I will be taken care of. So is this happiness? I am not sure. I know that the less chatter I have in my brain, the more I can discover that I am okay with this present time, I will be okay. As I hope that you are. I can help with the past trauma that you have carrying around. LENS heals the brain. I love good quotes:
"You don't have to be positive all of the time. It's perfectly okay to feel sad, angry, annoyed, frustrated, scared and anxious. Having feelings doesn't make you a "negative person". It makes you Human". Lori Deschene This is a good quote. It needs to be qualified. If you find yourself in a hole that you can't get out of please reach out to find support. Our support systems have been fractured. Find someone that you can share a smile and a hug. Of course, someone that is not ill. We have been in a place of disconnection and I hope that we can find the connection again. LENS calms down the brain so that it is not as reactive. It helps with depression, anxiety and sadness. Come and try it out. It is better than drugs and alcohol. Have you had a time in your life where you were knocked out from a blow to the head? Or even if you weren't knocked out but you had these type of symptoms:
LENS can help with these problems. I helps!! I have written about stress and how it affects us many times... I think that because of our times we need to be reminded of it's affects.
We are made up with many mechanisms that help us to heal. We have a part of the brain that is called the amygdala. It sends out the signal to the rest of the brain to prepare for fight or flight. It gets our system ready for getting out of a dangerous situation. This increases our blood flow and heart rate It also shuts down our digestive system. Becoming aware of the stress that we are under helps us to use methods to keep this system from going into overload. Our amygdala actually becomes larger when the stress response is continued. This over activation wrecks havoc in our bodies making us sick with heart disease, diabetes, obesity, poor eye sight and increased blood pressure. So it is worth it to take a breather. Learn to sit back and let our stress dissipate so that we can get our frontal part of the brain on board before we create problems with our relationships and ourselves. These are difficult times, we need to take advantage of the time we have to learn about who we are as human beings and care for others around us. LENS helps with our stress, without drugs or alcohol. |
AuthorHello, my name is Dana Lee Collins M.A.,L.P.C. I am a psychotherapist that has been trained in the art of neurofeedback. This science helps to heal the brain of trauma. I am dedicated to helping people heal. Archives
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